Signs your spouse is cheating on you

Introduction

The signs that your spouse is cheating on you are going to be quite similar whether they are cheating on you 'in the flesh' or are having online affairs but there are some specific signs that your partner is engaging in cyber sex with someone else. There is a chance that your suspicions could be unfounded, however, it is important that you find out for sure otherwise; the doubt will always be there.

The Internet has many good uses but with over 250 new adult web sites being added every day, the temptation to stray is getting greater for some partners.

Change in behaviour

As with normal affairs, your partner is highly likely to go through certain behavioural changes if they are cheating online. There will be a breakdown in communication, not only between yourself and your partner but also between your partner and his family and friends. Because they know they are doing something wrong, they expect everyone to criticise them for it and believe that everyone suspects them. Your partner may become bored and less active while at home and there will undoubtedly be less intimacy between the two of you. Keep in mind that there are other reasons for these behavioural changes like stress at work or worry about money.

The obvious signs

Your partner may suddenly be working longer hours. Perhaps they have secure and uninterrupted Internet access at work. You may see unexpected charges on credit cards and bankcards. One of the signs your spouse is cheating on you is a lack of desire to do things with you and they will become very defensive if you mention the possibility they may be having an affair, even in a lighthearted manner. General signs that he or she is doing things behind your back constitute suspicious behaviour, which should be quite evident.

Signs that may not be so obvious

If you begin to feel that you are being avoided it may not just be paranoia you are suffering from. If your partner becomes more attentive, more awake there is probably a reason for this; attentiveness will usually lead to the boredom mentioned above.

He or she will probably start dressing nicer and paying greater attention to their appearance; dressing smarter and wearing after-shave, especially if you feel it is not for your benefit.

If they will not even fight or row with you, this disinterested and almost defeatist attitude is quite a sure fire sign that they are indeed a cheating spouse.

The bottom line

There are many different signs your spouse is cheating on you, and not all of them allude to a cyber relationship. However, you should be careful that you are not getting signs of stress at work or something similar mixed up with signs of having an affair. Working longer hours and defensiveness could mean they are facing added stress, accusing them of having an affair is unlikely to help alleviate the stress.

You should subtly try to get more facts and unequivocally determine whether your partner is indeed cheating on you before you accuse them. Look for the signs and try to ascertain if there is another reason they are acting strangely.